Supporting children through divorce and separation

When Princess Andre recently opened up about the emotional toll of her parents’ divorce, her words would’ve struck a chord with many families navigating similar journeys. The daughter of Katie Price and Peter Andre shared how difficult it had been to process the separation, especially in the public eye. Her honesty reminds us that behind every divorce are children trying to make sense of a world that suddenly feels uncertain.

While every family’s circumstances are unique, Princess’s experience highlights a universal truth: divorce can be deeply unsettling for children. As family lawyers, we often see the ripple effects of separation on young people. But with the right approach and support, children can emerge from this transition feeling secure, loved, and resilient.

Understanding things from your child’s perspective

Children can struggle to articulate their feelings during a divorce or separation. They may feel confused, anxious, or even responsible for the breakdown of their parents’ relationship. Some internalise their emotions, while others act out in frustration or sadness. Even children with access to resources and professional support can feel overwhelmed.

You’ll be more able to help your child if you can understand how they’re feeling. And showing them that you understand their feelings and needs can be an important way to help them come to terms with the things that are changing. Avoid dismissing their concerns or rushing to “fix” things. Remember that they may see things in a different way to you. 

Whatever age they are, it’s important they have time and space to think about their feelings. Some children benefit from talking to a counsellor or therapist. Others may prefer journaling, drawing, or spending time with friends and wider family.

Talking openly

Telling your children that you’re separating can be the thing you most dread and explaining to your children what’s happening and why is unlikely ever to be easy. But there are better ways to approach this.

One of the most important things parents can do is talk to their children honestly but sensitively. Avoiding the topic or offering vague reassurances can leave children feeling more confused. Instead, explain what’s happening in a way that’s appropriate for their age and maturity. Encourage them to ask questions and listen to what they are saying.

Let your child know that it’s OK to be upset or angry, that you both still love them and, crucially, that your separation is not their fault.

Children don’t need to know the reasons behind the breakdown of your relationship so keeping explanations simple and child-focused is usually best. Focusing on the things that matter most to them and explaining how things will work practically - where they’ll live, where they’ll go to school, and how they’ll stay in touch with both parents - can help to reduce their anxiety. And if you don’t know the answer to something don’t be afraid to say that but let them know you’ll find out or that when you do know you’ll tell them.

Minimising conflict

Separation is stressful, and that stress can make conflict more likely - and harder to manage. Most parents love their children deeply and would never intend to cause harm. Yet sadly, many children are unintentionally affected by parental conflict. Research shows that exposure to conflict can negatively impact children’s wellbeing, leading to anxiety, depression, and behavioural issues. It can also affect their relationships and cause confusion when they feel torn between parents or receive conflicting messages from trusted adults.

Children should never be caught in the crossfire. Arguments, loyalty pressures, and legal or financial disputes should be kept away from them. If communication is difficult, tools like parenting apps, mediation services, or solicitors can help keep things constructive. Professionals such as family therapists can also offer valuable support and there are a variety of resources online that provide sensible advice on dealing with parental conflict. 

Stability

Change can feel unsettling, but stability helps children feel safe. Routines around school, meals, bedtime, and activities offer comfort and a sense of control.

If one parent is moving out, involve your child in setting up their new space. Let them bring favourite toys, books, or photos to make it feel like home. Unless safety is a concern, regular contact with both parents is usually in a child’s best interests.

Successful co-parenting

Even after separation, you remain co-parents and part of your children’s family. It takes time to adjust, but keep working at it - even when it feels difficult.

Prioritise your children’s needs and aim for shared decisions that benefit them. Presenting a united front helps: agree on boundaries, schedules, and expectations where possible. Stay informed about school, health, and emotional developments, and celebrate milestones together if you can. Avoid speaking negatively about the other parent in front of your child.

My colleague Joanna Grandfield recently shared her thoughts on successful co-parenting in this article.

Princess Andre’s candid reflections remind us that children are not passive observers in a divorce - they are active participants whose lives are being reshaped. By listening to them, offering reassurance, and creating a stable, loving environment, parents can help their children navigate this journey with confidence.

Our family and children lawyers understand that divorce is not just a legal process - it’s a life transition. We work with families to ensure that children’s needs are at the heart of every decision. Whether it’s arranging child contact, resolving financial matters, or navigating co-parenting challenges, our goal is to support families with compassion and clarity. We also recognise that every child is different. What works for one may not work for another. That’s why we tailor our advice to suit your family’s unique circumstances, always prioritising the emotional and developmental needs of your children.

If you’re going through a separation and want to ensure your children are supported every step of the way, we’re here to help. Our experienced children lawyers offer practical advice, emotional support, and legal guidance tailored to your needs.

Contact us to speak with a member of our team. Whether you need help with child arrangements, co-parenting plans, or simply want to talk through your options, we’re ready to support you and your family.